Need help with Online Shop and color options/showings on the website - anyone?

Hi there,

I currently build up my online shop and I now have a major problem, which I hope I'm just don't get because I think too complicated. I try to explain it in order:

So, first I add a new product in the back end. Let say I wan t to add "Dress XY". Dress XY comes in three different colours: red, yellow and beige. The first picture I choose in the beginning is the red one. Once I'm at the section the add different option the the product, I choose "color" and add those three colors as well es those photos I have of the dress in those colours. After I add everything else and hit "save", I want to have a look at it in the preview. I click through my website and set the filter at dresses on "blue". I know see the beige dress - but since I set it up with the option of blue, it shows now beige while the filter is on. So there is just one product shown which i have in three different options. Makes the online shop looks pretty small.

Is there anyway to get three products, which are standing by themselves on the website while also having the color option on each product site?

Because when I click on the beige dress (no filter), i see that there are other options, but they're not showing as individual product on the website itself.

I hope I made it clear what I want to know. It's a little bit difficult to actually write it down. Would seems weird to me if there is no solution to it other than set up all dresses each by each without having the colour options within the product site just to make sure every product is shown in the online shop.

Thanks for any help

Maxi